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How do Pinoy feel about old white men who marry younger Filipinas?
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How do Pinoy feel about old white men who marry younger Filipinas?
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Well I am a Pinay woman married to a white man who is older than me. As far as I’m concerned, it’s quite honestly none of my business, as long as they are happy. The same way it isn’t any of my business if two people of the same age are in a toxic codependent relationship. It also isn’t any of my business if cougars are out spending money on young men. People are complicated. Relationships are complicated. People in relationships are doubly complicated, as are the reasons why people are in those relationships. But everyone has their inner judgmental voice and I’m no different. So if you are asking how I feel about this, it largely depends on 3 things: 1. What each one is really looking for. The Philippines is definitely not the richest country on Earth. Different people respond to that differently. Many work hard, get an education, develop skills, and build a life for themselves, either in the Philippines or overseas. Many take the easy path and look for a financial savior in the form of a spouse to make their life better, or take other similar paths. “Older white guys”, as you have described them, can be looking for many things. A young cute girlfriend, a one night stand to boost their ego, a submissive woman. Or they can be looking for a companion to spend their life with, someone who actually wants to have a family, a wife who loves her husband instead of being hostile to him. They can be looking for a woman who’s happy to be a woman. They can want the kind of woman their father and grandfather married, were happy with, had happy marriages with, and spent the rest of their lives with. Filipinas can be looking to break cycles of cheating and broken families that they often see around them in the lives of their family and friends. They can be looking to have a husband they know will be coming home to them at night and won’t be setting up other families on the side. As for me, my husband and I both had relationships in the past where our partners weren’t loyal. Both of us went through our own struggles with that before we met each other. When he decided he was ready to look for his wife, he knew he wanted to meet a good Filipina because we are loyal and family-oriented. When I was looking for my husband, I knew I wanted a mature man who actually was interested in having a family and a stable life and saw the value of that. We both, thank God, found what we were looking for. 2. Why they are really together. It’s hard to know why people are actually together and judging people’s motives is a petty game. That said, you can tell when people really love each other and are close and intimate. You can tell when two people are uncomfortable with each other and one or the other is trying to act like they are comfortable, for whatever reason. There’s only so much you can force and fake before things fall apart, so I wouldn’t really worry about those relationships. In my experience, most of those Filipinas are with those men for the same reason I am with my husband: they want someone who respects them, appreciates them, loves them, someone who is reliable and dependable, someone who will be a good father and husband. After talking to a lot of guys in the U.S., and a lot of guys who married Filipinas, I can tell you that most of them want to be a husband, want to be head of a family, want to have a wife who appreciates them and doesn’t think they have to live like a Kardashian to be happy. 3. How they met. In the Philippines, where you meet someone is probably one of the most important factors. If they met in a sports bar and there was money involved, I would be seriously worried about that relationship. If they met online, it’s pretty much a dice roll. If they met through mutual friends setting them up because those friends see a match there, there is a good chance that it’s a legitimate relationship. If they met at Church, there are really good odds that the relationship will do well, in my opinion. As a Philippine matchmaker, however, I find that the best and strongest couples are couples that are both looking for the same thing and take concrete steps towards finding their future spouse. When both man and woman are seeking their life partner, it’s just a matter of putting yourself in the best position to find what you are looking for. I am blessed to have been helping people discover that for several years now and have helped dozens of men and women find their forever. Most all of them are loving couples who I’ve no doubt will last. So, speaking for me, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been since I married my “old white man”. He loves me, respects me, takes care of me, and I love, respect and care for him. We understand each other’s needs and try every day to meet them, and he has accepted my daughter as if she was his own. We both work hard for the family and our future and I know he’s coming home every night. That stability, to me, is more valuable than I can possibly tell you. Hope this answer is of some help!
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I am a Filipino. Honestly, I feel pity to both of them. I know, age doesn’t matter when it comes to love but I bet they are both into mutual parasitism. The younger woman is clearly after what the old man has (money and greener pastures) while the old man is after some reciprocation either be it anything sexual, care, companionship or to prove to themselves,to their families and friends that they are still marketable. It just sucks for me. I think the woman doesn’t really love the man. By the way, I have no objection nor I discriminate interracial relationship because I, myself, has a white foreigner bf and we are of same age.We are both degree holders and has work. It’s clearly an indication that I am not after the material things because I work smart to earn money for myself and to give back to my nuclear family.Honestly, I would never get involve with a man who’s age is like my dad and grandpa, It is disgusting for me. I cannot stomach kissing and worst having sexual intimacy with an old man. Simply not my preference. No offense meant. Thanks for reading. God bless.