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How do Filipinos feel about so many foreigners marrying Filipinas?
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How do Filipinos feel about so many foreigners marrying Filipinas?
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I will give you a non politically correct answer… no offense to anyone please! Background: I grew up in Metro Manila, spent college years in Manila where I saw a lot of Western guys dating Filipino ladies. Saw same couples whenever I go on vacation esp Boracay. Have also worked in the medical field and treated Filipinas (or gay transvestite Filipinos… no judgment) with their adoring Caucasian hubs by their side. Dated a European fella myself. One common perspective: that these Caucasian gentlemen have a different standard of beauty that Filipinos have. Our country was colonized by the Spanish so we have grown to admire fair skin, high bridged noses, and light colored eyes, as most Caucasians have. Curiously, the Caucasians we see are enamored of their spousies with native features: pug/pert noses, nut brown skin. My gay buddies term these girlfriends as “island souvenirs” with the unspoken thought, “How did *she* manage to bag this guy?!?” Another pervasive thought: these girls are in it for financial benefits or visas and the guys are in it for cheap s*x. My European ex (who I met in the medical field) visited me in Manila, and people we encountered (service workers, taxi drivers) assumed that 1) he's made of dollars/euros 2) I'm with him for monetary self-gain. (Actually I probably made more money than him at the time.) Unfortunately, this view is not entirely wrong. One hears of so many stories of Filipinas milking their foreign boyfriends and then leaving them once they get the money or the citizenship. Though other South East Asian girls also have this reputation, the perception about poor, gold digging Filipinas is wide spread. (Heck, even some well-off Filipino guys think their girlfriends are after their money, so it’s not necessarily a foreigner-Filipina issue. It’s just that in such relationships, the foreigner is more likely to be more financially stable. A guy with a modest income in his home country will look like a millionaire here once the currency is converted to pesos.) Another popular notion is that if the couple has kids, they will be 100% gorgeous. This is not an utter delusion. Our more well-known beauty queens (Venus Raj, Pia Wurtzbach) are of mixed blood. We Filipinos are crazy about certain Caucasian features such as round eyes, straight noses, light coloured hair and fair complexions. In general most people accept that this happens all the time and that there's a wide range of outcomes. Older generation is a bit suspicious, while younger ones who are globally exposed are indifferent. We are mostly pretty cool about it. Addendum: Another “non-politically correct” answer: when I told an ex (who had by that time become a platonic friend) that I was dating a European guy, he snidely remarked, “It must be the size.”
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I simply don't care about their business and it will do them good if other filipinos mind their own business as well. However, I noticed that most of them would bat an eye and whisper behind their backs. Ah this chick is only dating this foreign dude for money or Maybe she wants to migrate to his country. They would smile and say Wow! Congratulations but deep inside they are envious and bitter. Because one of the most annoying traits of Filipino is crab mentality. Some of them just can't seem to be happy for someone else and they are jealous so they'd whisper shit like that to make themselves feel better. Although it is true, that we cannot deny that there are plenty of filipina women who dreams of having a foreign husband preferably blonde hair and blue eyes. Many of them go to online dating sites fishing for a potential husband. You might already guess that most of them wants to lift themselves out of poverty or use them as a ticket to migrate out of their homeland. But I have also seen strong, independent and educated filipina women dating foreigners because they met them at work or during their travels. They are simply more exposed than the rest because they have the opportunity to actually meet them in person and interact with them rather than those who find husbands online. I've dated some foreigners myself and I find relationships with them is quite interesting. It has its ups and downs. Sometimes the cultural differences would clash and the language barrier would often cause miscommunications but it can teach you a lot of things. I learned a lot and it opened my eyes to other cultures. If other filipinos marry foreigners, who cares? It’s not a big deal. It is their choice.