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Why are there so many old Western men dating young Filipina women in the Philippines?
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Mostly, because you can and it’s tons of fun. I was stationed in the Philippines for three years in my early 50s and I got to date several filipinas — I guess around a dozen — ranging in age from 18 to 36, mostly in the younger part of that range. Almost all of them turned out to be really wonderful girls and even to this day send incredibly polite emails and such. Back here in the USA, a man in his late 50s doesn’t have nearly the same options. Over there you can find these gorgeous stick-thin beauties with long perfect hair one after the other after the other. I don’t think a single one of the many girls I dated there weighed over 90 lbs. Here one’s dating pool at my age is much less and there’s absolutely no way you’re going to find a tiny little beauty like that. So, the unwanted side effect is that I just regard most American women as friends and not for romance — I find it’s just how my brain works. It must be a dopamine thing at this point. One thing that’s quite amazing about the Philippines is the simple brutal honesty of romantic relationships. Many American women spend countless hours getting their outfit and makeup just so, and layering on the attempted sophisticated conversation, in the hopes that the total package is presentable. By contrast, some of those filipino girls are so gorgeous without makeup and in a $5 outfit that it makes your eyes water. Real, natural health and beauty and simply immaculate cleanliness and grooming. Usually not well educated, but that doesn’t necessarily equate to not being smart and resourceful. Their tiny physical stature is a bit alarming until you get used to it. One girl I spent tons of time with was — get this — 4′9″ tall and only 67 lbs. Healthiest person you could ever know, with a giant fun personality. As far as I could tell, feminism just doesn’t exist there. The girl is the girl and the guy is the guy … _period_. A guy’s job is to protect, provide, make plans, and pay. Many girls talk about themselves as their man’s “property”. That may or may not float your boat; I’m just saying that it really is how things work over there. You don’t have to be controlling, just decisive. If you asked a filipino girl, “where do you want to go for dinner?” she would probably find that pretty wimpy. Filipinas want to see a guy with strong character that they can depend on. Never, ever say you’re sorry for things you didn’t cause — it’s a major turnoff to them. For example, if you say “How are you?” “Well, I’m okay but Mom is sick.” “Oh really? I’m so sorry …” That would be a perfectly polite thing to say in the USA but not there — no no no no!!! They will see that as a weak and annoying statement. Just say, “I see … I hope she feels better soon.” The other thing is how similar many of those girls are in terms of relationships. I saw over and over then that they act pretty cold and after a few days their behavior completely changes. Spend two hours with one of them and she’ll be thinking what to name the kids — that’s hardly an exaggeration. Very very different culture but once you understand it it’s great fun. Filipino girls tend to have much closer relationships with their parents than American girls do. If she has the slightest romantic interest in you, Mom will know all about it immediately. So, don’t ever forget to be an absolutely great presence around her mom. If Momma perceives you to be a really superb guy, you could be 122 years old and she will greatly encourage her lithe little 18 year old daughter to date you and be the perfect girlfriend at all times. Alienate the mom and you can just forget it. Tip for beginners: if she wants to bring a relative or friend on your first date, by all means do it! If you show well, you won’t believe how much this will help on your first “real” date. Many white guys hate that cultural custom, but it can work overwhelmingly in your favor! Lastly one thing I would say, and I suppose this is a bit controversial, is: don’t date a girl who has dated multiple white men before. Those pictures you see on their Facebook page at a nice resort are most definitely not with her family. Girls who have dated multiple white guys tend to have a very different attitude toward relationships, and their heart gets pretty hard and opportunistic. Absolute red flags should be hoisted if the girl’s very attractive but has dated multiple white guys. I just can’t see how you could respect or get married to someone like that. You don’t want it or need it, and trust me it will get old after two hours.
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Old is gold! Hey? Western men are looking for domesticated and devoted wives and they found them in the Philippines. It is the culture thing. Traditional Filipino wife is very submissive and let her husband to be the boss or in-charge to almost everything. That is the filipino culture; husband is in charge of everything except the money. Wife is the treasurer. That is the traditional household role, but it does change now, a bit, because of Western influence. Old Western men, been divorced and had enough being with their own race decided to explore and spread their wings to the Far East. And why Philippines? They could go to Malaysia, Singapore, Indonesia etc. One reason is, English is the second Language in the Philippines. It is easy for the Western men to communicate. We all know that Western men are quite impatient? They are in a hurry to find a partner to bring back to the West and they had no time to teach a woman to speak English. Get it? Filipino wife does everything for the husband just to make him happy and content. You may wonder why they go to young Filipino girls not to the old ones?No available old ones. Again is the culture thing. Old Filipino ladies, never been touched and never been kissed are no longer interested to go dating. They just want to go to church every Sunday to pray, help family and stay away from boys. It is a taboo in the Philippines when you are old ladies say 60's, you still eager to find boys, especially in the province. It is not true that filipino girls married Western men for financial gain. This is a very wrong assumption just because Philippines is the third world country. Bear in mind the ratio of girls is much higher than men in the Philippines. We are short of men population. More girls than boys. Another reason, Filipino girls like to improve their races as they love the white skin and the look of western people. They want to have kids with the white people. This is the attraction. Hope it helps to you guys…to understand.